Sex Is Written in the Stars

18 Sep
lion king sex in the stars

Literally! How many of you remember this movie moment?

Astrology can be used in many ways, from finding the perfect timing to change careers to pursuing hidden talents. It can also offer enlightenment about our sexuality. What are your needs? What are your partners desires? Start by knowing your own needs for sex and intimacy. Then you can utilize astrology to see what kind of company you seek and harness the types of people that are drawn to spend time with you!

When someone asks, “What’s your sign?” (and hopefully not as a pick-up line) they are referring to your Sun sign, which is the basis for most horoscopes. There are 12 Sun signs and one of these signs was assigned to you at birth (called your natal chart). Each sign has its own inclinations & motivations which describe your basic nature and the personality traits that remain constant through the changes that life throws at you – your sun sign describes your personal center. Please find your Sun sign below:

Capricorn December 22 – January 19
Aquarius January 20 – February 18
Pisces February 19 – March 20
Aries March 21 – April 19
Taurus April 20 – May 20
Gemini May 21 – June 20
Cancer June 21 – July 22
Leo July 23 – August 22
Virgo August 23 – September 22
Libra September 23 – October 22
Scorpio October 23 – November 21
Sagittarius November 22 – December 21

Some examples of personality traits or inclinations that signs typically carry:
Gemini – communication is important but so is taking your time and being invested
Cancer – very intuitive. good eye of knowing what your partner is interested in
Pisces – compassionate, thinking of other people’s feelings
Sagittarius – strong and always wanting to have fun
Capricorn – very committed, dedicated to the cause
Aries – adventurous, open to variety, seeks to push limits

Please take this time to use the Sun (main) sign to find toys that will add some spice in your life or as a way to woo the one you may have your eye on.

Capricorn, Virgo, Taurus

The element associated with these signs is Earth. These signs are perceptible by touch. Their 5 senses are involved in life, love, and sex. Play that incorporates those senses is usually where they want to be involved. For the Cardinal Capricorn, floggers are a recommendation for play as well as sensual skin play/tickling. Virgo rules the Health & Service aspect of the Zodiac and it’s common to see them happy in Domination & submission types of play. Other recommendations would be Ben Wa or Kegel Balls for Earth signs as they require a lot of personal feel and physical involvement for use. Taurus generally enjoy sensuality, touch & smell. Massage candles are a recommendation for that bull in the bedroom. These signs may enjoy toys that have been recommended for other signs, and that is wonderful! Earth signs will commonly enjoy decadence as well, so feel free to enjoy a fun romp in the bedroom and eat food after sex. Aphrodesiac foods such as chocolate, avocados, strawberries and shellfish can be delightful, decadent, and delicious.

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Libra, Gemini, Aquarius

The element associated with these signs is Air. And much like air, they are constantly moving, always on the go, always circulating. However, they also need to take their time to get on board with things or to get to a goal. Don’t rush them into a decision or relationship. Typically they are always talking/high intellect as they value communication or seek stimulation. Charming as they are, they are happy in a group where everyone is pleased and everyone is having a good time. Because you cannot rush them into a goal, they want things they can have rapport with. Gemini’s tend to show interest in gadgets and vibrators are a recommendation (options to buttons and moving parts keep their focus).  Aspects of the Libra sign require aesthetics and they are interested in how things look  – visually they want “pretty things”. A glass dildo is pretty or they may enjoy playing “dress up”. Don’t be fooled, they will get down and dirty, but you have to catch their eye with pretty things. A recommendation for Aquarius and Libra are books or how-to materials. They want info to share, learn, and try at home. Books such as Urban Tantra by Barbara Carrellas, Kama Sutra, etc. are wonderful recommendations.

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Pisces, Scorpio, Cancer

The element associated with these signs is Water. Like water, these signs need  stability but also like to blur boundaries. It’s important for these signs to to feel secure and safe emotionally. Generally they won’t be the types to be casual with, there needs to be an emotional bond there for them to feel safe with you. Toy recommendations for this sign would be a video  – A Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples or Expert Guide to Advanced Fellatio. This brings forth an emotional bond element to sexual play where both parties are engaged, both parties have the dynamic where they are “in this together”. Also a harness kit is recommended for partner use but provides fluidity and opportunity to blur lines. Why? Some do not have only the need to be safe but also have an aspect of gender bending/fluid in gender where either partner can use the toy and maintain pleasure (plus add trust). Handcuffs/cuffs or BDSM practices can also be recommended as trust is present and both parties can go to a place of trust with their partner.

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Aries, Sagittarius, Leo

The element associated with these signs is Fire. Watch out, much like fire it burns hot and fast. It is a dynamic, masculine energy. When a fire sign is around you know the energy is in the room. Regarding sex, love & getting deep – they want to do things that incorporate sport & play. They want to be moving around, wrestling, and staying active. Toy & play recommendations would be door jam sex slings or Liberator brand sex furniture to engage in full body play. For your Leo, try lingerie or let them be the superstar actress/actor in the bedroom with role-play. Fire is also impatient – they do not make time to install ceiling harnesses or anything where set-up is required. Move fast and create less-to-do in order to get busy is a good way to approach this fire sign.

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* From the Secret Pleasures Workshop “Love, Sex, & Astrology” with Astrologer Mecca Woods, September 2013

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