What the Kink?! – A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM

2 Jan

tantus silicone thwack“I want to spank my partner.” “My partner wants me to tie them up.” “I want to talk dirty.” “She wants me to give her better oral and I want to be of service – how?!” The good news is that your friendly neighborhood adult boutique transforms into an adult education space a few times a month to bring you the latest & greatest tips, tricks, and classes to help address all of your erotic or sexual pleasures. With an expanded BDSM section on our 2nd floor, the necessary equipment is available to add some zest to your love life. This is not the time to simply make resolutions, this is the time to plan and act. There is no excuse to keep kink and other wants out in 2014 – It is a new year, fill it with new fun! Don’t make me get the paddle.

I’m not the type of person to make New Year’s resolutions, folks. It’s the same every year – “I want to lose X pounds.” “I want to quit smoking.” “I want to spend more time with my family.” Some people fulfill their goals (super!), but many do not. What are you waiting for? It is quite possible to let another year go by with unmet goals unless you get on board with what you want. This includes your sex life and alternative interests.

BDSM From A Novice Standpoint

Sure, I understand. You’re new to BDSM, you are hesitant. And there is real reason to hesitate – going too far, too fast or miscommunication with your partner. However, you’ve taken a step to read this blog and that is a step in the right direction. Individuals and couples that are new to BDSM have much to gain by exploring their sexuality.

“What’s with this bondage/sadomasochism stuff?”

This “stuff” is much larger than a few paragraph descriptors. But, when we discuss BDSM at a basic level we are referring to “BDSM” as an acronym for “B&D” (Bondage & Discipline), “D&S” (Dominance & Submission), and “S&M” (sadomasochism). BDSM can encompass any or all of these things, and more. One person (a submissive) doesn’t just agree to submit to another dominant person, rather it is an exchange of sorts; One person agrees to receive X sensation (such as flogging) from another person.   

While sex is not always involved, there is a heavy sexual nature or heavy focus of sexual tension. It is typically fraught with emotion psychologically and has the potential to test personal limits and boundaries. BDSM combines power play (sexual and non), mental eroticism, and can even import somewhat taboo subjects to the forefront of your sexual life for exploration.

“It Is Fun?”

Let’s face it, kinky sex has inherent appeal.

When you toy with BDSM you’re doing so in a safe, sane, consensual (acronym SSC) fashion where trust has been established. You can also behave in ways that are unexpected in your day-to-day life if you are simply playing within the BDSM context. Playful, exciting sex can be created – fantasy becomes reality.

Eroticising power can be, well, powerful –  humans respond to power and control, and it is not surprising to want to include this in our sexual lives. Have you ever wondered “what would it be like if…”? Are you tired of your boss breathing down your neck and you want to be the boss for a change? Be the boss! Are you tired of being the boss and you seek to let loose for a while, let freedom ring! The BDSM roundtable has room for everyone to take a seat, including Daddy’s girls, boot worshippers, sensation-seekers, queers, & geeks (while the puppy players and slaves vie for space underneath the table or at someone’s feet).

So why would someone want to participate in BDSM? In sum – WHY NOT?!

If this blog post piqued your interest, we welcome you to join us on January 23, 2014 at 7pm for our BDSM class, aptly titled “What The Kink?! where you will learn to tease, blindfold, spank, and flog your partner to your (and their) hearts content!

Please stay tuned to the same sexy time, same sexy channel for future BDSM related posts and material which will include negotiation, safety, impact play, sensation play, and more!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

Malin James

Erotica. Sex. Culture.

The Romance Evangelist

I live for the HFN/HEA and am decidedly pro-epilogue

Courtesan Press

Elegant Erotica & Romance

.Charlie Glickman

Explore Your Sexuality - A healthy part of life.

Ashley's Blog

Explore Your Sexuality - A healthy part of life.

Rad Sex

Radical Sex Education For Everyone

The Redhead Bedhead

Sex, Mental Health, & How None Of Us Are Broken

Hey Epiphora

Where sex toys go to be judged

Frisky Feminist Press

Explore Your Sexuality - A healthy part of life.

Malin James

People. Sex. Culture.

%d bloggers like this: