Ask An Educator: Discreet Public Play

22 Jan

What are some ways that couples can discreetly be playful in public? For example, are there blacked out sunglasses available so someone could be kept “blindfolded”? Are there ways to tie a partner’s hands discreetly?

secret discreet public playThe lure of playing with your partner in public is incredibly erotic to many folks. What is less erotic is the idea of being hauled off to jail for public indecency … or kidnapping depending on what kind of play you are engaging in! So the question is how do you maintain the thrill of being frisky in public without alerting the masses to your sexy machinations?

we vibe 4There are many products on the market that can lend themselves well to public play. Perhaps the most well known is the We-Vibe which can be worn (vaginally or tucked securely in the underwear against the testicles & penis). A partner can then manipulate the vibration via the remote control or via app if you have the We-Vibe 4 Plus. The motors are relatively quiet but they do make some noise so this is best used in a place with some background noise (a lively restaurant works quite well).

Désir MétalliqueBijoux Indiscrets makes some lovely jewelry that double as BDSM items. Their Désir Métallique line (which comes in black and gold) can be worn as fashionable necklaces and bracelets which can turn into cuffs or collars / leashes at a moments notice. They are wonderful accessories that can heighten your Ds play in public without letting everyone around you know what you are up to!

As far as blackout sunglasses go, we aren’t aware of any (a quick perusal of Google didn’t turn up much either).  If you want to keep your partner “blindfolded” in public, you can take the DIY route – take a pair of sunglasses with dark lenses and paint the inside of them so that your partner can’t see out of them. It goes without saying, of course, that if you want your partner to be unable to see, you MUST be with them at all times to make sure they are safe.

We hope that this helps you on your journey to public play. If anyone else has any other product suggestions, feel free to leave them in the comment section!


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