Six Misconceptions About Menopause

15 Sep

Despite my preoccupation with my own reproduction and hormones and human sexuality in general, I have not given enough thought to menopause and that is a problem. Luckily, September is Menopause Awareness Month. And, in true Sex Educator fashion, we have decided to learn as much as we can about this life transition that impacts so many people and share the knowledge. During my research for this post, I was glad to have many of my misunderstandings about menopause clarified. I’ll try to tackle some of them but first let’s discuss what menopause is.

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Inclusionary Play Spaces

14 Jul

This post will switch between using person-first and identity-first language, be sure to ask an individual how they prefer to be referred to instead of assuming!

Inclusiveness is really important to us at Secret Pleasures, and we advocate that sex positive and kinky spaces be open to individuals of all ethnicities, races, classes, gender identities, gender expressions, sexual and romantic orientations, and abilities.

Sometimes people with disabilities are left out of the conversation and all the fun because we don’t realize our spaces aren’t accessible, and this blog post is going to give some pointers on how to make play spaces accessible to as many folks as possible! Continue reading

Gender Neutral Sexytimes

22 Jun

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In our last post on Gender Neutrality, we explained the societal constructs of sex and gender, and why it was important to keep language neutral and inclusive in safe spaces.

You may be a person who knows this already and so you might be thinking, “I use people’s preferred pronouns, I respect all genders, and I’m cognizant of the ways in which gender and sex are used to oppress people, but I very rarely get a chance to show people that I understand this because I don’t meet very many trans or nonbinary people.” Continue reading

Pride Month Guide To Celebration Of Self

7 Jun

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After May’s Masturbation Month, a celebration of self-pleasure, we have Pride Month, another celebration of self specifically for members of the LGBT and Queer communities. As always, we recognize that pride looks different for everyone. Life situations or intersecting identities may make it difficult or infeasible to express one’s gender or sexual identity. Keeping this in mind, we invite everyone to continue to explore what it means to celebrate oneself and to do so in whatever way that may be. In the meantime, we’ve put together a few ideas for products for your “embracing yourself” shopping list.

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Perusing Ideas on Prostate Pleasure

1 Jun

MTM1MzA3MDc3NDY3Njk3MTIyAfter reading The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, one of the wonderfully informative books that we carry in our shop, I was inspired to write a blog post on the topic. Enjoying pleasure from prostate stimulation isn’t mentioned frequently, and when it is, it’s often shrouded in myth. Despite the lack of knowledge and shame surrounding the the topic, exploring the prostate can be enjoyed by many.

I’d like to take the time to address a few of the more common ideas and myths that are often deterrents to exploring the prostate. So here we go! Continue reading

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