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Ask An Educator: First Time Bottoming

1 Jul

This is the first in a series of blog posts created for us by our guest educator, Dr. Ruth Neustifter. Stay tuned for more  information from this fantastic educator!


Hello I’m a male and I need some tips for when I first bottom? I’m really nervous about the whole situation and I need some guidance.

gladI’m so glad you’re thinking ahead on your first bottoming experience! Since you’re email is short on details I’m making a few guesses here.  First, I’m guessing that you’re bottoming sexually and that you’re planning to do that by receiving anal sex. This information should be helpful regardless of whether you’re bottoming with a strap-on or with a flesh penis. Secondly, I’m not sure whether this is with someone you know well or not or if you’ll even be communicating with that partner about your date first. I’m going to answer as though you will be able to have some conversations with them first, but I’ll also include some information in case you’re not. Here are some things you might consider! Continue reading

Ask An Educator: Maximizing Male Oral

16 Feb

My partner and I both enjoy giving and receiving oral sex. We can maximize my pleasure with a vibrator, but I’m looking for a way to maximize his pleasure as well. Any suggestion, toys, lubricants that will help me rock his world?

loveWe love getting questions like this because they show us that partners are looking out for each other and seeking ways to make each other feel good! Good for you! We love it when couples seek ways to get even more out of their sex lives. Continue reading

Guest Review: Ceramix No. 3 Plug

6 May

It’s time again for another guest post from a good friend of the store. D has returned to give us this review of the Ceramix No. 3 plug!


Pipedreams ceramix no.3 plugI opened the box and my jaw dropped at the beauty and elegance of what lay before my eyes…an exceptional piece of artwork. I use the word “artwork” to describe it because that is exactly what it is: art – an expression of beauty of above ordinary significance. The Ceramix No.3 Ceramic Wand is more than just an eye pleaser; it also highly excels as a pleasure pleaser as well. Continue reading

Guest Review: Njoy Pure Plug

18 Apr

perspectiveHere at Secret Pleasures, we love reviewing products but we recognize that different perspectives are always important. Currently everyone on our staff identifies as female so we thought it would be great to get a male perspective on the blog as well. This is the first of what we hope will be many reviews from our male bodied friends of the store. * Enjoy!


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Valentine’s Day Gift Guide: Sexy Edition For All

20 Jan

valentines day

 How many times have you found yourself at the giving end of a default flower bouquet or bromidic chocolate? How many times have you received a gift that could have used more thought? For many, Valentines day can be an overwhelming or annoying conflict of expectations vs. reality. It can also be a good excuse (as if you needed one) to give/receive something awesome from someone that you adore/fancy/want in your bed.

To save you the uphill battle, we have compiled naughty, erotic, and beautiful things that you will crave no matter what your romantic status (or lack thereof) happens to be. These are perfect for the couple, the kinkster, the soloist, and those that are separated-by-the-miles. Avoid the last-minute decisions, enjoy the sexy erotica that has been provided for inspiration, and indulge yourself, also.
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