Tag Archives: BDSM

Inclusionary Play Spaces

14 Jul

This post will switch between using person-first and identity-first language, be sure to ask an individual how they prefer to be referred to instead of assuming!

Inclusiveness is really important to us at Secret Pleasures, and we advocate that sex positive and kinky spaces be open to individuals of all ethnicities, races, classes, gender identities, gender expressions, sexual and romantic orientations, and abilities.

Sometimes people with disabilities are left out of the conversation and all the fun because we don’t realize our spaces aren’t accessible, and this blog post is going to give some pointers on how to make play spaces accessible to as many folks as possible! Continue reading

Holiday Gift Guide 2015!

16 Nov

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It’s that time of year again! With the holidays just around the corner, Secret Pleasures is here to provide you with exciting gift ideas for everyone on your list.

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Ask An Educator: Owning a Whip

17 Aug

Dr. Ruth Neustifter tackles the question of why someone might own a whip!


So why does a woman have a sex whip? A girl that I was dating said that she had one but had yet to use it.

Why Why wouldn’t a woman (or anyone) have a sex whip? Seriously, though, you’re asking a great question. As the second floor of Secret Pleasures shows, people can enjoy a wide variety of props, tools, and gear that may not seem directly related to genital stimulation in the same way as vibrators and such.

The only way to really know why she bought a sexy whip would be to ask her, but perhaps I can offer a few possibilities why other people come to the store to buy them: Continue reading

What the Kink?! Lions, Tigers, & Challenges

9 Mar

african-safari-travelYou are faced with a challenge: finding your way through a jungle with no map and a general idea of where you want to go. What do you do?

Do you gather resources and plan? Do you run into the jungle armed only with what you are carrying in your backpack? Do you reminisce over the olde days of Oregon Trail and the awesome survival skills that you exhibited during that journey? (I never made it to Oregon, for the record. Dysentery, tragic.) Anyway, the point is, you are trying to get from point A to point B and there are challenges in your way.  Continue reading

Ask An Educator: Trying Something New

23 Feb

My husband and I are like the ” blind leading the blind” when it comes to sex. I want to try so many different things. Many are outside of our small “sex option box.” I often read erotica novels and dream about being dominated, like many of the leading ladies,  but my husband is prideful with the subject and I am often left unsatisfied and disappointed. Now sex has become something that I shy away from because I already know the ending and that’s frustrating. What do you suggest ?

newGetting stuck in a sexual rut can be incredibly frustrating – especially if one partner wants to try something new and the other partner is reticent. So how do you move forward and create a fulfilling and exciting sex life while still honoring our partner’s feelings? Continue reading

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