Tag Archives: BDSM

Ask An Educator: Discreet Public Play

22 Jan

What are some ways that couples can discreetly be playful in public? For example, are there blacked out sunglasses available so someone could be kept “blindfolded”? Are there ways to tie a partner’s hands discreetly?

secret discreet public playThe lure of playing with your partner in public is incredibly erotic to many folks. What is less erotic is the idea of being hauled off to jail for public indecency … or kidnapping depending on what kind of play you are engaging in! So the question is how do you maintain the thrill of being frisky in public without alerting the masses to your sexy machinations? Continue reading

Fifty Shades of Fantasy

14 Jan

Fifty Shades of Fantasy

While we have serious misgivings about the book series, we recognize that people want to explore and try new things. With that in mind, are you feeling inspired? Curious? Whether  you’ve read the book or are just vaguely familiar with the infamous Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy by E.L. James, you may be wondering about all of the toys and gadgets featured throughout. Well you don’t have to wait for the movie release to see what tricks Christian Grey has up his sleeve – we aim to please and have done the legwork for you in order to create your own Fifty Shades of Fantasy!

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Secret Pleasures Holiday Gift Guide 2014!

5 Nov

christmas pet rock On the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me… a pet rock? We are excited for you, if you really wanted that darling little pet rock. After all, it doubles as a paperweight and a doorstop. If you have been on the receiving end of gifts like this in the past that you really have no use for, do not fret! We have the latest and greatest coming from the North Pole straight to your front door – Santa prefers FedEx during this busy holiday season. Enjoy!  Continue reading

A First Trip to Dark Odyssey: Winter Fire

25 Feb

valentines dayValentine’s Day weekend is always a crazy time for us here at Secret Pleasures. We joke that Valentine’s Day is our Black Friday because the store is almost always packed to capacity with people looking for something special to spice up their sex life. This past Valentine’s Day was especially hectic for me because not only did we deal with our usual crowd of people (maybe even more since we were closed the day before because of snow) but I also made my first sojourn to a major Dark Odyssey event! And wow, what a weekend it was! Continue reading

What The Kink?! – Kinky Richter Scale

13 Feb

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Don’t be shy, take the poll! (results are anonymous) 

1 = Shhh, Don’t Even Talk About It Enough said.

2 = Curious Mind The thoughts excites you but you wouldn’t act upon them.

3 = Sensory Starter Just a little kinky. ie: cyber, phone, or text. You’re willing to talk about it with other people.

4 = Dip Your Toes In Willing to try new things within reason. Mild  impact play/discipline, mild bondage cuffs/restraints, dirty talk and fantasy planning with others have happened.

5 = Behold: BDSM You’ve played around with basic/moderate BDSM (Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism) with others. You’ve picked up a few toys here and there. You’re definitely interested in exploring more or keeping elements of this alive in your relationship(s)/play activities. It’s fun but not a requirement just yet.

6 =  Not ‘Nilla – You pause to try and recall the last time you had vanilla (non-kinky) sex and in the end you can’t remember. At this point, you’ve moved into the kingdom of kink; ‘normal sex’ involves kink or is kinky most of the time, if not all of the time.

7 = BDSpankMe The sensuous world of BDSM overcomes you and you bathe in the pain or pleasure of it. You’ve harnessed your kink, you are ready to play hard or go home. You are a regular BDSM participant. Kinky weekends, anyone?

8 = The Sky Is The Limit Whether you are a collared submissive or a Dominant of one/many, you could not imagine living any other way and you are happy to blaze kinky trails. You’re a lifestyler, baby!

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