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Holiday Gift Guide 2015!

16 Nov

Holiday Gift Guide 1

It’s that time of year again! With the holidays just around the corner, Secret Pleasures is here to provide you with exciting gift ideas for everyone on your list.

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What the Kink?! Lions, Tigers, & Challenges

9 Mar

african-safari-travelYou are faced with a challenge: finding your way through a jungle with no map and a general idea of where you want to go. What do you do?

Do you gather resources and plan? Do you run into the jungle armed only with what you are carrying in your backpack? Do you reminisce over the olde days of Oregon Trail and the awesome survival skills that you exhibited during that journey? (I never made it to Oregon, for the record. Dysentery, tragic.) Anyway, the point is, you are trying to get from point A to point B and there are challenges in your way.  Continue reading

A First Trip to Dark Odyssey: Winter Fire

25 Feb

valentines dayValentine’s Day weekend is always a crazy time for us here at Secret Pleasures. We joke that Valentine’s Day is our Black Friday because the store is almost always packed to capacity with people looking for something special to spice up their sex life. This past Valentine’s Day was especially hectic for me because not only did we deal with our usual crowd of people (maybe even more since we were closed the day before because of snow) but I also made my first sojourn to a major Dark Odyssey event! And wow, what a weekend it was! Continue reading

What The Kink?! – Kinky Richter Scale

13 Feb

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Don’t be shy, take the poll! (results are anonymous) 

1 = Shhh, Don’t Even Talk About It Enough said.

2 = Curious Mind The thoughts excites you but you wouldn’t act upon them.

3 = Sensory Starter Just a little kinky. ie: cyber, phone, or text. You’re willing to talk about it with other people.

4 = Dip Your Toes In Willing to try new things within reason. Mild  impact play/discipline, mild bondage cuffs/restraints, dirty talk and fantasy planning with others have happened.

5 = Behold: BDSM You’ve played around with basic/moderate BDSM (Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism) with others. You’ve picked up a few toys here and there. You’re definitely interested in exploring more or keeping elements of this alive in your relationship(s)/play activities. It’s fun but not a requirement just yet.

6 =  Not ‘Nilla – You pause to try and recall the last time you had vanilla (non-kinky) sex and in the end you can’t remember. At this point, you’ve moved into the kingdom of kink; ‘normal sex’ involves kink or is kinky most of the time, if not all of the time.

7 = BDSpankMe The sensuous world of BDSM overcomes you and you bathe in the pain or pleasure of it. You’ve harnessed your kink, you are ready to play hard or go home. You are a regular BDSM participant. Kinky weekends, anyone?

8 = The Sky Is The Limit Whether you are a collared submissive or a Dominant of one/many, you could not imagine living any other way and you are happy to blaze kinky trails. You’re a lifestyler, baby!

What The Kink?! – Cuffs/Handcuffs

22 Jan

hand cuffs Art Greetings and salutations lovely internet people, and faithful followers of our blog. My name is Bettie and I will be the Captain of this ship. This is not your Disney Cruise lines typical family vacation – we kicked Mickey off 1000 miles ago! Steady on course toward exotic, erotic destinations. If you are brand spanking (no pun intended) new to bondage and want to know more, grab a lifejacket and read on. Other passengers that have a partner that is a police officer (or plays one on tv), read on. If you like frisky, resistance play… you guessed it – read on!

Cuffs/Handcuffs are:

  • quick (time saver)
  • easy to apply

  • minimal storage space needed

  • comfortable (cuffs, dependent upon the material and type)

  • durable

  • available in varying colors/styles/materials

With the same purpose in mind, wrist or ankle cuffs surround the appendage to hold a person [securely] in place. Easy peasy lemon squeezy. Continue reading

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