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Interview w/ The Wonderful Alison Tyler

11 Feb

alison tyler dark secret loveIt should come as no surprise that we here at Secret Pleasures love erotica. Erotica is a fantastic tool for adding a little zest to your relationship, adding some spice to your solo fantasies and, honestly, it’s just plain fun. And while we love a lot of writers, Alison Tyler is one of our favorites. The self-proclaimed “Trollop* with a Laptop”  is a prolific erotica writer & anthology editor and she produces some of the best stories to grace our book shelves. We recently got a chance to interview Alison via the wonder of the interwebs. Read on to see what she has to say about her inspiration, the Fifty Shades of Grey phenomenon and her advice to folks who want to write erotic stories of their own!
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Ask An Educator – Sex Makes Me Feel Like I Need to Urinate

21 Jan

*We’ve received several questions pertaining to the same topic so we are going to address them all in this post*

“What does it mean when you are having good sex and it feels like you have to urinate?”

“Every time I think I’m having an orgasm I urinate. Why is that?”

g spotMany female bodied folks encounter this at one time or another – you are having incredible sex (with yourself or a partner) and all of a sudden you feel the overwhelming urge to pee. So whats the deal? Well the good news is that you more than likely don’t actually have to pee (especially true if you went right before getting down to business). The better news? Congrats, you found your G-Spot! Continue reading

Ask An Educator – Premature Ejaculation

9 Jan

 “Hello educator. Less than 3 mins after I start making love, I ejaculate. Is there any spray or cream that I can use that will make me stay longer? My wife is angry…
I am waiting for your answer.”

screaming o prim o ringEarly ejaculation is a concern for a lot of men and this is a question we get frequently. While there are delay creams and sprays on the market, we don’t recommend them. Why? Well, they numb you and while they may make you last longer, you won’t feel any pleasure and where is the fun in that!? Instead, we recommend the use of a cock ring. A c-ring fits snugly at the base of the penis. The ring constricts blood flow out of an erection but allows blood flow to continue in. It also presses on the underside of the penis, constricting the urethral tube which is the tube that carries ejaculate out of the body. For many men, this helps them maintain a firmer and longer lasting erection and also keeps them from ejaculating. Want to add in more stimulation for you and your partner? Try a vibrating c-ring! 

Also, it’s important to remember ejaculation doesn’t have to be the end of sex! There are plenty of things that you can still do with your partner after ejaculation – get them off with your mouth or hands, give and receive sensual massage, spend time exploring each other’s bodies. Remember, sex doesn’t have to just mean penetration!

What the Kink?! – A Beginner’s Guide to BDSM

2 Jan

tantus silicone thwack“I want to spank my partner.” “My partner wants me to tie them up.” “I want to talk dirty.” “She wants me to give her better oral and I want to be of service – how?!” The good news is that your friendly neighborhood adult boutique transforms into an adult education space a few times a month to bring you the latest & greatest tips, tricks, and classes to help address all of your erotic or sexual pleasures. With an expanded BDSM section on our 2nd floor, the necessary equipment is available to add some zest to your love life. This is not the time to simply make resolutions, this is the time to plan and act. There is no excuse to keep kink and other wants out in 2014 – It is a new year, fill it with new fun! Don’t make me get the paddle.

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Consent – A Journey When Given, A Trainwreck When Not

14 Oct

reality check aheadHello to you, good people of the internet. Come with me, if you will, down the golden path of consent. Imagine that you wake up to a message from someone inviting you out for coffee. You accept this offer and think that you are going out on a friendly date with an unmarried person later in the day. You meet, greet, and the friendly coffee date is going great. They don’t have 2 heads or bad teeth, there is a lot of flirting occurring and plenty of witty banter back and forth. Suddenly your date turns to you and says “OK, before this goes on I have to tell you that I am married and my partner wants me to bring home another person.” O_o

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